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    March 05

    我越急就越慢

    [转贴]智慧爸爸的箴言
      十二、我越急,就越慢
      爸爸从来都不会说:“慢一点儿!”
      告诉孩子“慢一点儿”是一个直接的命令,它并没有解释为什么要慢一点儿。爸爸说话的方式总是让我们在交流中获得快乐,而且他的智慧话语还让我们明白———慌乱会让事情变得更糟。
      “我越急,就越慢。”这话提醒我们,急急忙忙地赶着干一件事并不能让这件事做得更好或者更快。
      十多岁的时候,我好像总是忙得跳脚。一会儿冲向这里,一会儿杀到那里,拟定无数个方案,然后像个皮球一样蹦过来跳过去。我们急于求成、竭尽全力,使尽浑身解数要办成事,这就把我们弄得神经紧张、思维混乱,最终,做好这件事花费的时间远远超过了必要时间。
      爸爸对我说:“我越急,就越慢。”告诉我做事情要调整速度,要有耐心。
      青少年通常不爱听父母的建议,我想,如果爸爸也和其他父母一样对我说教,我一准也不会“遵命”。可爸爸并不说教,他只是言简意赅地告诉我他对生活观察的结果,我也就没法拒绝了。
      爸爸从来都不会直接说,瞧你“急”出来的“好事”!相反,他会说:“我越急,就越慢。”
      爸爸用的是第一人称———“我”。他用自己现身说法,不用做太多逻辑推理,我自己就能得出结论:如果爸爸因为心急反而让事情做得更慢,那我没准也会犯这样的错误哟!
      还有一句意思差不多的俗语:“欲速则不达”。相比起来,爸爸更喜欢说:“我越急,就越慢。”这两句格言说的都是同一个道理,但爸爸说的话更容易引起我的注意,让我永远地记在心里。
      不时的,我就会想起这一课:“我越急,就越慢”。
      工作与速度:有些事情是急不得的,如果你慌慌张张地去做一件事,往往会花费你更多的时间。
      最好的教育方法往往不是对孩子进行说教,而是告诉他们你对生活观察的结果。(12)《智慧爸爸的箴言》长江文艺出版社

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